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Wassap Wit Dat!
You got the Cat...now here come da Dog! As much as wahine, kane can wala'au (talk story), although Lance Kwon admits their bark is usually bigger than their bite. We're letting Lance blog because he works in the accounting department and controls our money. So what's he blogging about? Anything and everything, from the male point of view!
Reach Lance at lkwon@honolulu.gannett.com.
Posted on: March 21, 2008 at 7:43:12 am
Kleenex Ready?

Since this is Feel Good Friday and Easter coming up, I thought I'd share this story with you. It is written by Rabbi Paysach Krohn and while he claims being told first hand by Shaya's father himself, there's nothing to disprove it either.

I read this every year as baseball practice goes into full swing as part motivation and to remind myself why I keep doing what I do.

Take the time to read the story through, take it in and get inspired.

Where is God's Perfection?

In Brooklyn, New York, Chush is a school that caters to learning disabled children. Some children remain in Chush for their entire school career, while others can be mainstreamed into conventional schools.

At a Chush fund-raising dinner, the father of a Chush child delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.

After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he cried out, "Where is the perfection in my son Shaya? Everything God does is done with perfection. But my child cannot understand things as other children do. My child cannot remember facts and figures as other children do. Where is God's perfection?"

The audience was shocked by the question, pained by the father's anguish, stilled by the piercing query.

"I believe," the father answered, "that when God brings a child like this into the world, the perfection that he seeks is in the way people react to this child."

He then told the following story about his son Shaya:

One afternoon Shaya and his father walked past a park where some boys Shaya knew were playing baseball.

Shaya asked, "Do you think they will let me play?"

Shaya's father knew that his son was not at all athletic and that most boys would not want him on their team. But Shaya's father understood that if his son was chosen to play it would give him a comfortable sense of belonging.

Shaya's father approached one of the boys in the field and asked if Shaya could play. The boy looked around for guidance from his teammates. Getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said "We are losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him up to bat in the ninth inning."

Shaya's father was ecstatic as Shaya smiled broadly. Shaya was told to put on a glove and go out to play short center field.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shaya's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shaya's team scored again and now with two outs and the bases loaded with the potential winning run on base, Shaya was scheduled to be up. Would the team actually let Shaya bat at this juncture and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shaya was given the bat.

Everyone knew that it was all but impossible because Shaya didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, let alone hit with it. However as Shaya stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shaya should at least be able to make contact.

The first pitch came in and Shaya swung clumsily and missed. One of Shaya's teammates came up to Shaya and together the held the bat and faced the pitcher waiting for the next pitch. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly toward Shaya. As the pitch came in, Shaya and his teammate swung at the bat and together they hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could easily have thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shaya would have been out and that would have ended the game. Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field, far beyond reach of the first baseman.

Everyone started yelling,"Shaya, run to first. Run to first." Never in his life had Shaya run to first. He scampered down the baseline wide-eyed and startled. By the time he reached first base, the right fielder had the ball. He could have thrown the ball to the second baseman who would tag out Shaya, who was still running. But the right fielder understood what the pitcher's intentions were, so he threw the ball high and far over the third baseman's head. Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second." Shaya ran towards second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases towards home. As Shaya reached second base, the opposing short stop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base and shouted, "Run to third." As Shaya rounded third, the boys from both teams ran behind him screaming, "Shaya run home."

Shaya ran home, stepped on home plate and all 18 boys lifted him on their shoulders and made him the hero, as he had just hit a "grand slam" and won the game for his team.

"That day," said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, "those 18 boys reached their level of God's perfection."

Comments:

Comment from: King Katonk [Visitor]
Amen, Braddah Lance.

All too often we demand perfection in others while neglecting the imperfections in ourselves.

Keep up the good work coach. Kids today need solid role models.

Now where's that box of Kleenex?

Permalink 03/21/08 @ 08:00
Comment from: munch [Visitor] · http://calvarychapelpearlharbor.com/
hey where is everyone again? must have the day off for Good Friday eh?

what a nice story Braddah Lance, good way to start this Easter Weekend. i almost started tearing up at my desk!

very true though--many people will surprise you by their actions in similar situations and the kindest acts can come from the ones you least expect! but never underestimate the heart of a child.

and off the subject but if anyone is looking for something to do tonight or Sunday everyone is invited to my church (see the website) our drama team and choir are putting on a special production.

have a great day everyone!
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 08:12
Comment from: Coconut Willy [Visitor]
Every morning I pray that I can be an inspiration and lend a hand to others.

Sometimes though, I succumb to the mediocrity of my peers.

I need to be better and uplift those around me.

Happy Easter everybody!
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 09:10
Comment from: Da Tin Man [Visitor] · http://dennis159.vox.com
The second commandment, Love thy neighbor as thy self, is fitting for this story. We should all be like them kids.
We adults are so into our own world that we neglect what is outside of our world..
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 09:32
Comment from: Warrior Dave [Visitor]
Bruddah Lance,

Thank you for sharing this touching story. I knew what was coming as I started to read and I feel myself become emotional. Great story which gives me hope for the future.

Happy Easter to you and yours!!
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 10:05
Comment from: Opso [Visitor]

Nice feel good story.

Yup, public perceptions and societal pressures tend to cloud peoples reaction to things.

We need more compassionate people like you Braddah Lance. You doing good.

Permalink 03/21/08 @ 10:34
Comment from: Dabomb [Visitor]
nice story.....even this macho no emotion "DaBomb" shed a drop :*(

We should have all coaches, in all sport, in all school, to teach their team on HOW TO LOSE WITH CLASS and THE PURPOSE OF THE GAME FIRST....before trying to GET A WIN!!!

To much have we seen sports being focused on WINING and "SELECTING THE BEST" (cuts, 2nd/3rd strings, bench warmers, etc) instead of giving everyone a CHANGE JUST TO PLAY and HAVE FUN AT THE GAME!

Permalink 03/21/08 @ 11:27
Comment from: Braddah Lance [Member]
King Katonk: Yeah, even after all these years of reading this story I always tear up.


munch:Almost like we da only ones working yeah? Dang holidays! Dunno about you but I think we only observe like six or seven...dis ain't one of 'em.


Dabomb:Wow, you tink the same way I do! My players never are told the score of the game and the rookies always get busted when they ask. The punishment? Whatever the score is, that's how much laps. Score is 5 to 3 - that's eight laps buddy.

I never bench a player unless it's for disciplinary reasons and even at that extent they play at least an inning. And no, I don't "select the best" (can't say much for our "neighboring club" as they send their "not so good players" to us saying they're full...when they're really not). I've coached several girls, a deaf kid and quite a few with ADHD just to name a few of my "challenges".

And then I always get an occasional parent or two that asks if we win. I explain the above and also that I coach how to play with class and respect. Facial expression not so enthused. Then I mention that we've been in the championship game the past six years running and that we won the first four in a row and lost only four games the past four years. Eyes get wide and ears perk up. So sad.
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 11:48
Comment from: Dabomb [Visitor]
Kwonic Leader, You Da Man!!

Yah, I see to much coaches focusing on winning...whats worst are the parents....YIKES! I see some parents booing the opposing team, and they're just kids for god sake. It can get pretty intense sometimes where I think at the begining of each game, all the referees, choaces, and parents should make a rule....JUST RELAX...It's really for the KIDS to SOCIALIZE, HAVE FUN, EXERCISE, learn respect and RULES, etc.


Off the subject...

And I dont think we are the only ones thats "working"...it just happened that WE SHOWED UP TO WORK and not necessary "WORKING"...."I came to work, but I'm not really working"....I bet thats what all you guys are doing...

Aloha Friday + GOOD FRIDAY + After Lunch = zzzzzz = Hawaiian Style Friday Working on "work"

^_^

Permalink 03/21/08 @ 12:28
Comment from: Dabomb [Visitor]
Just wanted to make a POST_OUT that your Friday post are becoming really "ZEN-olicous"...

Permalink 03/21/08 @ 12:32
Comment from: snow [Visitor]
Thanks for sharing this story - no matter how many times I read it, I tear up every time. Even if I know the story, I always want to read it again, knowing that I always cry when I read it. It's so touching.

It's also nice to know that there are coaches like you out there - those kids are lucky to have you!! It is very hard to find coaches and parents nowadays who teach the love of the game and good sportsmanship, not just to win. Everyone wants their child to be a winner, I wholeheartedly agree that it is just as important to learn how to be a good loser, as well.

I tell my stepson that he should just do his best - it doesn't matter if he (or the team) wins or not. But, it's tough, because no matter what I say, or how many times I say it, he wants to show everyone how good he is and when he doesn't perform as well as he'd like... agh, it's just not a good thing and it can be extremely frustrating!

Anyway, enough venting...

Happy Easter everyone!!
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 12:37
Comment from: Braddah Lance [Member]
Comment from: snow [Visitor]I tell my stepson that he should just do his best - it doesn't matter if he (or the team) wins or not. But, it's tough, because no matter what I say, or how many times I say it, he wants to show everyone how good he is and when he doesn't perform as well as he'd like... agh, it's just not a good thing and it can be extremely frustrating!
Sounds like he needs a visit to Coach Lance's camp for a few weeks... ;)
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 12:44
Comment from: snow [Visitor]
Ahh, sounds like a plan! Do you coach golf, too?? ;O)
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 15:38
Comment from: Long Time UH Fan [Visitor]

That was one of the best posts I've ever read. Great stuff, Lance!
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 19:02
Comment from: LRob [Visitor]
Wow...wow...

Awesome story Braddah Lance.

One of the most touching stories I've ever heard.

As a parent of a child with a learning disability, I've found myself asking the same question.

Now I know the answer.

Wow...
Permalink 03/21/08 @ 21:20
Comment from: bakopi5 [Visitor] · http://www.e-menuhawaii.com
Great Story... Got a bit teary just reading it...
Permalink 03/22/08 @ 10:06
Comment from: Kakaako Blogger [Visitor] · http://blogs.myadvertiser.com/index.php?blog=10
What a wonderful story! Not just the selflessness of the boys, but the actual teamwork--the pitcher understood what the other team was doing, the right fielder knew what the pitcher was doing, all without words.
Permalink 03/22/08 @ 11:10
Comment from: hemajang [Visitor]
Great story, Coach Lance. I'm always impressed with volunteer coaches who have no kids on the team. There are also coaches who continue after their own kids have grown up and stop playing. They spend countless hours for the love of the game and the positive influence they may have on their lives. It sounds like you are doing it the right way. Correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think youth baseball coaches get paid. In soccer, not AYSO mind you, there are quite a few competitive youth teams with paid coaches. The expectations are high for both coaches and players. The thought is that if you are willing to pay someone for swimming or martial arts lessons, then shouldn't you pay a certified/licensed soccer coach to train your child for competitive soccer?

When my kids were playing youth recreational baseball and AYSO, there were a number of disadvantaged kids who were always given a fair chance to play and were always supported and cheered for their efforts...very heartwarming but good lessons for players and adults. Participation and effort was more important than winning.

BTW, I hope your league found enough players for the season. Sometimes putting out flyers and announcements at the community schools are helpful...what about the military kids around Salt Lake?
Permalink 03/22/08 @ 21:43
Comment from: Braddah Lance [Member]
hemajang: It depends in what organization you coach but in PAL, where I coach, we are all volunteers - from the coaches to the scorekeepers, only the umpires are paid and minimally at that. Our payment is usually just "thanks" and potluck lunch which is just fine by me.

Thanks for the suggestions about finding players! Trust me, all avenues have been taken. In fact, one of our lower division team parent had even gone as far as posting on craigslist to generate interest but to no avail. We're just in an area where participation in sports is dwindling.

Don't get me started about the military kids...a future blog perhaps.
Permalink 03/22/08 @ 22:20
Comment from: JuSaMee [Visitor] · http://jusamee.vox.com
sorry guys...i was one of the lucky ones with friday off!! i was tempted to make it a 4 day weekend, but i'm here today!! great story...i might've seen it before, but as many of you have already said, we often tend to wait for others to correct themselves before correcting ourself. on easter sunday i reflected about my savior and what he went through for me, but then got sidetracked and remembered that he lived and died and rose again for all men not just me. so who am i to judge someone or have ill feelings or hold a grudge?? thanks for reminding us on the true meaning of easter!!
Permalink 03/24/08 @ 08:23

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